Those Elders

Those elders,
as imperfect
as they were,
those elders are
on my mind
Those elders
I would drive
12-18 hours
every other
to visit with
We would talk,
laugh, cry, pray,
and sit by the fire
They took their time
with me, you know
They gave up time
for me, you know
And those
12-18 hour drives
back home
weren’t always
with spiritual highs
and profound
they shared with me
Many of those drives
were filled with tears
and me punching
my steering wheel
cussing and being
so angry about
some of the things
they said, shared,
and teased me about
The ceremonies,
yes, even the talks,
because conversations
are ceremony too,
were about life
Living more deeply
by allowing
certain things to die
Those elders
were so gentle
with my spirit
and mind
but vicious with
my ego
With no hesitation
they would thrust
a spear into my ego
with few words –
or no words at all
Laughing at
my false pride,
false humility,
and my arrogance
in any form
when ego reared its head
Those 12-18 hour
rides back home
were me fighting
to keep
what was stopping
me from living
Those drives back home
were filled with the
torment and grief
of me dying
to an ego
that did nothing
but separate me
from The Creator,
myself – my heart
Those elders,
those dear elders
weren’t always sweet,
but they saved my life

Whenever I speak
of those elders
I often hear
people say,
“I wish those types
of elders existed today”
My response is,
Those types of elders
do exist today,
but like years ago,
and perhaps since
the beginning of time
not many people are
willing to go through
the death
those types of elders
so that we can live
more fully, deeply,
and freely
In the words of
one of those elders,
“You can look around
until you get
the answer you want,
but that’s not
looking for truth,
that’s looking
for confirmation
and validation
There will always
be a couple of
people who think
you’re an asshole
no matter what
you say or do
But when you have
a lot of people
saying the same thing
it’s time to look
at you
If you’re one
of the only ones
you know
who isn’t full of shit
then who’s
full of shit
is you”

Those elders,
those beautiful elders
aren’t few
It is few
who are willing
to look at
the things
we don’t want
or like to see
about ourselves
and allow
that which stops
us from living
to die



Author: thisholyinstant

Anthony Goulet is an acclaimed author, speaker and trainer whose books as well as his life's work in youth development is endorsed by national leaders in youth violence prevention, gang intervention, personal transformation and parenting. Along with being a former Detroit Golden Gloves fighter, Anthony earned the rank of second dan (degree) black belt in the American Karate Association, and was a a professional marital arts instructor. As a youth, Anthony experienced the powerful transformation and healing process of being a participant in youth programs. As his mentors and counselors helped him work through the pain, loss, tragedy, and trauma he experienced in his childhood, he uncovered something that he didn't know was there - a gift. With the guidance of highly skilled and passionate mentors and counselors, Anthony walked a sacred, healing journey from his head back to his heart. It is there where he remembered and reclaimed his vision, mission, dreams, and purpose. In 1991 he began his path in working with youth and young adults, and continues to facilitate the sacred, healing journey from the head back to the heart with all those he is entrusted to serve. In his twenty-six year career in youth development, Anthony has led gang prevention and intervention programs, prisoner reentry programs, and worked as a Certified Addictions Counselor with gang affiliated youth and adults providing relapse prevention for substance abuse and criminal behavior. Anthony continues to work full time as a Street Outreach Crisis Counselor who serves homeless, runaway, exploited, and sex trafficked youth by facilitating interventions, rescues, and safe transports on the streets; he also provides the longer term services of counseling and family reunification within the emergency youth shelter. Due to his personal testimony, twenty-six years of professional experience, and ability to articulate the process of transformation with passion and beautiful storytelling, Anthony continues to be sought by many organizations as an inspirational speaker, trainer and consultant. Anthony works full time as a Street Outreach Crisis Counselor in Montgomery County, Texas where he lives with his wonderful wife and children.

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